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Raising another mans kids
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:28 pm
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:28 pm
I have been laying here reflecting back on some of the relationships I've had in the last 6 or 7 years since my divorce. I've come to realiize I've let some damn good women go because I can't raise another mans kids.
I may be a douche bag but at least I'm honest when I say I can't stand the little bastards. So no matter what I felt and in a few cases still feel for the mother it's not worth it if I can't love her kids also.
At my age, upper 30's it's hard to find a woman without a kid unless you want one that's 20. I like fricking a 20yo as much as the next guy but I don't want a relationship with one. What does the OT feel about it? Any of you baws raising another mans kids? If so then more power to you. It can't be easy.
I may be a douche bag but at least I'm honest when I say I can't stand the little bastards. So no matter what I felt and in a few cases still feel for the mother it's not worth it if I can't love her kids also.
At my age, upper 30's it's hard to find a woman without a kid unless you want one that's 20. I like fricking a 20yo as much as the next guy but I don't want a relationship with one. What does the OT feel about it? Any of you baws raising another mans kids? If so then more power to you. It can't be easy.
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Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:28 pm to HogBalls
If you were a lion, you'd just eat them.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:30 pm to HogBalls
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quote:why would anyone do this?
Raising another mans kids
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:30 pm to HogBalls
Come across as a real loser.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:31 pm to HogBalls
I think you must be full of yourself. Not being able to rear and love a child? Even if someone else participated in his or her creation, you have a serious character flaw. Good for the children. They deserve better than you. 
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:32 pm to HogBalls
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At my age, upper 30's it's hard to find a woman without a kid unless you want one that's 20.
South Arkansas problems
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:32 pm to HogBalls
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At my age, upper 30's it's hard to find a woman without a kid unless you want one that's 20. I like fricking a 20yo as much as the next guy but I don't want a relationship with one. What does the OT feel about it? Any of you baws raising another mans kids? If so then more power to you. It can't be easy.
Wait a few years and find someone whose kids are grown. You don't have to raise the ex's kids, you don't have to worry about whether she's going to age well, and you don't have to deal with a large age/maturity gap.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:33 pm to HogBalls
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Raising another man's kids
Sounds like you're taking care of the woman he didn't want too
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:35 pm to rebeloke
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Come across as a real loser.
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Rebeloke
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:35 pm to GreatLakesTiger24
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Raising another mans kids
why would anyone do this?
Probably because they are decent people, not total narcissists.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:35 pm to HogBalls
People vastly underestimate the complex issues involved in raising someone else's kids. You're not wrong to think twice about it.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:35 pm to rebeloke
Nahhh, the loser thing to do would be keeping the mother around for self pleasure and ignoring the kiddos.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:36 pm to HogBalls
It has been one of the most challenging and humbling things I have ever done. I thought about bailing a time or two but they grow up eventually and the problems lessen.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:37 pm to HogBalls
It's probably best to let your sister(s) raise your nieces/nephews without your involvement anyhow.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:39 pm to HogBalls
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I like fricking a 20yo as much as the next guy but I don't want a relationship with one
You're not fricking 20 year olds
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:40 pm to cusoonkpd
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I think you must be full of yourself. Not being able to rear and love a child? Even if someone else participated in his or her creation, you have a serious character flaw. Good for the children. They deserve better than you
Have you ever tried it or are you just running your hole?
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:40 pm to shutterspeed
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People vastly underestimate the complex issues involved in raising someone else's kids. You're not wrong to think twice about it.
You really just have to defer to her on discipline. Otherwise they can pull the "you're not my dad" card.
There's also the potential for her douchebag ex to cause drama but that can happen with a divorcee with no kids. Or overbearing in-laws.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:42 pm to TigerPox
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It's probably best to let your sister(s) raise your nieces/nephews without your involvement anyhow
You mean his sister/wife raising his niece nephew/son daughter don't you.
Posted on 1/31/16 at 8:43 pm to HogBalls
The woman my brother married had a 12 year old daughter when they met. Her father was not in her life, even though they lived in the same town. He treated her as his own, raised her as his own, and when she got married, he was the one who walked her down the aisle. Don't let it scare you away from a promising relationship, it works out fine more often than not.
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