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Imposter syndrome, anyone have it?
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:19 pm
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:19 pm
I've been high performing my entire life (school, work, athletics), but when promotions come up I tend to start doubting everything, and in the past I've self sabotaged.
I've been offered multiple management positions with the company I work for and keep finding good reasons to turn them down (they all have required large moves with 3 kids).
For anyone that has experienced this (yeah I know, stop being a bitch), how did you overcome it. It's a company that will go public within 3-4 years so I need to get in the position to get shares for a hefty buyout.
I train and manage people as is, it just seems when the immediate prospect of the sole responsibility falling on me I falter internally.
I've been offered multiple management positions with the company I work for and keep finding good reasons to turn them down (they all have required large moves with 3 kids).
For anyone that has experienced this (yeah I know, stop being a bitch), how did you overcome it. It's a company that will go public within 3-4 years so I need to get in the position to get shares for a hefty buyout.
I train and manage people as is, it just seems when the immediate prospect of the sole responsibility falling on me I falter internally.
This post was edited on 11/10/23 at 8:21 pm
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:20 pm to AUbagman
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stop being a bitch
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:21 pm to AUbagman
That’s not imposter syndrome
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:21 pm to AUbagman
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(yeah I know, stop being a bitch),
Sounds like you've figured it out.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:23 pm to AUbagman
Everyone is an imposter. Just egos fronting with each other. 99% of people are completely full of shite.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:24 pm to AUbagman
You fight through it for six months to a year. Fake it til you make it then start dominating again.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:25 pm to AUbagman
I have a good friend who has it. He's VP of sales for a Fortune 100 company. He's gone from salesman to manager, to regional manager, to regional VP. Now hes VP over the entire country. Last year they named him executive of the year. His stock options are worth enough to where he's going to retire in 7 years at 56 years old.
But he claims that at every annual review he's convinced that he's about to be fired. When he gets up to give a presentation he thinks everyone is laughing at him because he doesn't know what he's talking about.
It's a weird combination of fascinating and sad to listen to him try to explain it.
He's fully aware of the syndrome and aware that it's an emotional disorder. He just doesn't know what to do about it.
But he claims that at every annual review he's convinced that he's about to be fired. When he gets up to give a presentation he thinks everyone is laughing at him because he doesn't know what he's talking about.
It's a weird combination of fascinating and sad to listen to him try to explain it.
He's fully aware of the syndrome and aware that it's an emotional disorder. He just doesn't know what to do about it.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:25 pm to AUbagman
I deal with imposter syndrome daily, but what you’re dealing with sounds like it may be a bit deeper than doubting your belonging.
My favorite method of dealing with it is reminding myself that if (fill in the blank’s name of someone who is a complete moron) can do it, then I am more than enough.
I’ve also leaned into it a bit and turned it into a motivator. “Do I have what it takes?” Go fricking find out, baw.
My favorite method of dealing with it is reminding myself that if (fill in the blank’s name of someone who is a complete moron) can do it, then I am more than enough.
I’ve also leaned into it a bit and turned it into a motivator. “Do I have what it takes?” Go fricking find out, baw.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:26 pm to AUbagman
Are you afraid of failing? You're already failing by not trying. Let that sink in.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:27 pm to Tuscaloosa
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if (fill in the blank’s name of someone who is a complete moron) can do it, then I am more than enough.
I usually use myself in that analogy
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:27 pm to GeorgeTheGreek
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You fight through it for six months to a year. Fake it til you make it then start dominating again.
Just pull the trigger and do it type thing. Stop being a bitch.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:30 pm to AUbagman
I definitely feel it in my office. I think, based on feedback alone, that I'm a top performer, but given that I am younger than my colleagues, I often feel inadequate and like i'm out of my league being there.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:30 pm to EmmittLBrown
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Are you afraid of failing? You're already failing by not trying. Let that sink in.
Yes, being the sole breadwinner definitely has an impact. But you are correct. Life changing money on the table and I'm too chicken shite to take it.
Just strange to me, other people think I can do it and want me there, but I don't. Maybe I need my Test levels checked.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:31 pm to 777Tiger
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I usually use myself in that analogy
I tell people to use me in their’s. I just own it. I’m an arse clown, and that’s okay. Anybody can fly a widget I guess. Who knew.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:31 pm to AUbagman
So, do you feel like a fraud even while high performing and that's holding you back? Or is the root really that you're afraid to underperform once you're in the higher grade position?
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:36 pm to No Colors
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He's fully aware of the syndrome and aware that it's an emotional disorder. He just doesn't know what to do about it.
But at least he's actually taking the positions. Kudos to him.
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:36 pm to Sao
quote:The Peter Principle
Or is the root really that you're afraid to underperform once you're in the higher grade position?
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:37 pm to AUbagman
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Imposter syndrome
fancy zoomer way to say “self doubt” which is completely normal
Don’t overthink. Celebrate you
Posted on 11/10/23 at 8:37 pm to AUbagman
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AUbagman
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