re: help settle dating debate

Guess I'm old school.

Texting sometimes annoys me to no end. Nothing wrong with actually talking on the phone. Much more personal than "hey what's up" as a text.

Different generation, I spent 3 days with my little brother last week and his phone didn't ring once but he probably got 1,000 texts in those 3 days

Yeah but Paige is in our generation fin


I mean I text a lot. But I still value a good ol long phone call.


I couldn't imagine just texting my husband goodnight every night when I was out of town and not actually talking to him.


And when you have small children and are out of town...I bet hearing them say " hi daddy or mommy" over the phone is pretty special.

Yeah but she's single and dating, that's dating these days

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Tl Dr - buddy went on date. Things went well, lots in common, mutual physical attraction, etc.

In my world, if you ask a girl out and things go well, it is on her to make the next move. The move can be as simple as a "thanks I had a great time and want to see you again". But the next move should come from her.

He thinks he should be calling the next day to set up date #2.

Different strokes I know, just curious what the all knowing ot thinks.

And save the alpha beta shite....

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If I didn't hear from her by the time I wanted to I would call her. Its not a big deal IMO.

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Annoyed me then. If a guy would only text me as means of communication...I lost interest.

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Do you think how you met them played into their communication means?

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And save the alpha beta shite....

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Good advice for everyone.

If things go well I'll leave the line in the water for a few days seeing if she bites to make the next move. If not I'll then go ahead and text her somewhere in the 4-5 days range to set something up.

There is no dating debate. There are no right or wrong rules. It should all be by feel.

If you strictly go by a rigid set of rules for dating instead of reading the signs/cues/language of the other person then you are doing it wrong.

If possible, I'd probably send a quick text on day 2, maybe something funny and relevant to something discussed during date. No pressure, keep it light. As long as response is good, call a little later or the next day and plan for round 2.

But in reality, no need to overthink it. Unless she's exceptionally pretentious or just doesn't like you, he'll be able to fumble his way into the next date if the first one truly went well.