re: Having the "Money Talk" with the SO before marriage(Posted by BTHog on 1/20/13 at 11:54 pm to eyepooted)
just remember, her money is hers, and your money is joint money.
seriously the way my wife and i do it is joint accounts and each get an allowance each week to spend on whatever. This includes gifts and what have you. Big purchases are joint decisions and come from the joint accounts.