re: Found out a gay colleague of mine is married to a woman...

Does he wear women's clothes?

She deserves to know

How do you know he isn't bisexual and his wife is ok with him getting some dick on the side?

This isn't your business

You could wait and let her find out on her own in 10 years and three kids later.

I worked with a recent college grad years ago that got married to her long distance boyfriend immediately before starting with the company. Her husband was a school teacher in a small town a pretty good distance away and decided to finish the last 6 months or so of the school year before moving here. Her income was probably 3 times what his was, so that seemed odd to me. He also never drove over on weekends to visit her. She said he was busy doing athletic activities and didn't have time for her to visit him either. I eventually was brutally honest with her and explained that it was not normal for a guy to not be interested in sex during the first year of marriage. I asked her other questions about him that resulted in huge red flags. I pointed out my concerns as tactfully as I could. A few weeks later she came in my office crying, telling me I was right. The dude was sleeping with another teacher whose husband was in prison at the time.

Sometimes people in relationships either don't see the obvious or lie to themselves. If you don't want to talk to her, maybe you should talk to her husband. If he cares for her at all, he should do the right thing.

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Punch yourself in the balls 17 times. Say an our father.
Stop posting on the O-T.

This is your business how? Sounds like you don't really know the couple that well, and you are getting info from secondhand sources to some extent. Is your assumption correct...maybe, but could there also be more to the story...definitely. Either way, it's: (1) none of your business to divulge anything to anyone and (2) none of your business to even investigate it.

With that said, if you decide to be prick and some shite goes down, report back.

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HIV among those on the "down low" is pretty common

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I was all for the OP minding his own business until you mentioned this. I was wondering what sorority he had joined that taught him to gossip like this.

Now though, his path is clear. He has to email all of her friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, and clergy.

Out of all of them, somebody will be close enough to her to inform her that her new hubby is a sausage jockey. Problem solved.

I also like the idea of the OP posting pictures of her hubby and his co-butt pirate to her Facebook.

She will thank him later.

Oxford MS? It is immoral. You need to tell the wife ASAP before she goes to far down this gay road

Or before he gives her HIV