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re: Dilemma: Let's say you have a job offer
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:22 pm to jvilletiger25
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:22 pm to jvilletiger25
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Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:22 pm to ThatMakesSense
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No one wants to be miserable with you. Your ex-wife already made that clear.
Haha. My ex was/is the reason
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:23 pm to Wolfhound45
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You can always change jobs. You can never replace your children.
So true.
My dad was barely in my life and i havent spoken to him in years. Have two other brothers and doesnt talk to any of us. Funny thing is we all ended up better financially and Family wise then he did. If you are prepared to leave and not see your kids then they will gradually not miss you the longer you are not in their lives. So be prepared to not have them in your life down the road if you plan not to see them very often.
This post was edited on 4/12/17 at 3:24 pm
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:24 pm to jvilletiger25
So you're moving halfway between the gash and your kids.
Got it.
So the girl now lives in Madison where you used to live and go to church and met your ex, you live in Jax, FL, currently but want to move back home to Dothan, your hometown...
Got it.
So the girl now lives in Madison where you used to live and go to church and met your ex, you live in Jax, FL, currently but want to move back home to Dothan, your hometown...
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:24 pm to jvilletiger25
The only way you can consider taking that job, if what you have posted in this thread is true, is if you can negotiate a custody arrangement that makes the situation better for your children. I'm not sure that is possible, but if it is make sure the modification gets entered by the court before you quit your current job and move.
Don't rely on any unofficial agreement between you and your ex.
Don't rely on any unofficial agreement between you and your ex.
This post was edited on 4/12/17 at 3:27 pm
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:26 pm to jvilletiger25
I got a feeling your personality is partly to blame for the way your ex acts. No normal, heavily involved dad would even consider moving away from his kids.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:26 pm to jvilletiger25
Ugh. 4 1/2 hours suuuuucks. I've got a pal who does a very similar drive every other Friday and then back again on Sunday, but he is able to leave around lunch on Friday. He's a pretty devoted Dad, doesn't skip a visit, but I know it kills him to not be there for the everyday stuff.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:27 pm to Titus Pullo
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So you're moving halfway between the gash and your kids.
That's exactly what I thought too.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:27 pm to Titus Pullo
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So the girl now lives in Madison where you used to live and go to church and met your ex, you live in Jax, FL, currently but want to move back home to Dothan, your hometown...
Boom.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:28 pm to jvilletiger25
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It would pretty much double my salary. I would have so much more job satisfaction and life satisfaction as well. But idk how happy I would be without them.
in time they would forget you so its a win-win-win really.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:30 pm to FLObserver
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So be prepared to not have them in your life down the road if you plan not to see them very often.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:30 pm to AUCE05
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I got a feeling your personality is partly to blame for the way your ex acts. No normal, heavily involved dad would even consider moving away from his kids.
let em just say that I had to spend 6 months away from my kids to get better and it was torture and it was for all the right reasons. I kicked one the hardest habits to kick to be back with my kids and wife and be there for them. i would never willfully take time away from them.
This post was edited on 4/12/17 at 3:33 pm
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:30 pm to jvilletiger25
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I know they depend on me. I'm the one that takes them to their games and is always there, while their mom is off somewhere with shithead and can't be bothered with being a mom.
This is the answer to your question. Do you want shithead mom and shithead mom's boyfriend to be the only parental influences in your kids' lives for 28/30 days a month?
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:30 pm to jvilletiger25
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The most screwed up thing about it is, they love it back home. They love seeing their cousins and grandparents. They ask me if we can move there all the time. The only thing that would stop that is my ex.
Were the kids born in Alabama or in Florida? If Alabama, you may have a case for getting primary custody there. More family support can hold some weight. If can add ANY doubt into the suitability of your ex as a mother, you could get the kids. Proving that you can have a better job will also add weight. It won't be easy and you'll need a conniving lawyer to help, but it can be done. Trust me, I've seen it very close up.
But if you just want some young arse, the fight won't be worth it.
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:30 pm to AUjim
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So I'll drive
And I'll think about my life
And wonder why, I'll slowly die inside
Every time I turn that truck around, right at the Georgia line
And I count the days and the miles back home to you on that Highway 20 ride
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:32 pm to Tiger Prawn
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This is the answer to your question. Do you want shithead mom and shithead mom's boyfriend to be the only parental influences in your kids' lives for 28/30 days a month?
Said the same thing a few pages back
. Glad to know we at least on the same page 
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:32 pm to SabiDojo
Those zip codes might not be exact, but based on what he's said, I'd bet they're pretty damn close.
He probably went to uah for school and lived in HSV where he went to church and met his ex and worked with the youth group the new chick was in.
And if she's 5 hrs away from his hometown which is about the same distance from Jax, FL and a wiregrass city, that means the Dothan area.
He might have gone to AU and then moved up North to HSV out if college for work, like a lot of folks.
People come on here and spill intimate details of their life and it never fails to turn into a train wreck, eventually.
You would think people would learn, but I'm glad they don't. It's entertaining.
He probably went to uah for school and lived in HSV where he went to church and met his ex and worked with the youth group the new chick was in.
And if she's 5 hrs away from his hometown which is about the same distance from Jax, FL and a wiregrass city, that means the Dothan area.
He might have gone to AU and then moved up North to HSV out if college for work, like a lot of folks.
People come on here and spill intimate details of their life and it never fails to turn into a train wreck, eventually.
You would think people would learn, but I'm glad they don't. It's entertaining.
This post was edited on 4/12/17 at 3:35 pm
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:33 pm to jvilletiger25
OP should change title to "Dilemma: Pussy or my kids?"
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:34 pm to jvilletiger25
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But, my ex probably won't let me take my sons with me. And Florida law would back her up. It sucks only getting them every other week as it is. Me moving would probably mean that I would only get them one weekend a month and during the summer and winter breaks some
My real talk advice would be to stop worrying about how often you get to see your kids.
And start worrying about how often they get to see you and worry about how worthy you are of being seen by them.
Check your priorities baw
This post was edited on 4/12/17 at 3:36 pm
Posted on 4/12/17 at 3:36 pm to Titus Pullo
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People come on here and spill intimate details of their life and it never fails to turn into a train wreck, eventually
This.
a couple years ago i was stupidly bragging about a certain topic and it literally got back to my wife. i learned much about the OT that fateful day
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