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Destination Weddings
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:19 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:19 pm
I was recently invited to one in the mountains of Tennessee. Both bride and grooms entire families live in Houston. Seems odd in my opinion. What is the OTs opinion of destination wedding?
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Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:20 pm to danilo
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was recently invited to one in the mountains of Tennessee.
If it's in Gatlinburg, then politely decline and thank me later.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:22 pm to danilo
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I was recently invited to one in the mountains of Tennessee. Both bride and grooms entire families live in Houston. Seems odd in my opinion. What is the OTs opinion of destination wedding?
It is one of the most egotistical things on the planet. You're lucky I'm going to your wedding, you're out of your mind if you think I'm paying for a vacation that will get zero use because your dumbass can't get married at a local nice spot.
Buy them a breadmaker and tell them you need the vacation time for a niece or nephew, or just tell them they suck at life.
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 9:24 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:25 pm to danilo
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What is the OTs opinion of destination wedding?
I got married in Playa del Carmen, so I guess you could say that I'm cool with them.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:26 pm to danilo
Personally I could never ask others to spend that much money and time to travel to my wedding. The best I have seen so far though is years ago ,when my wife and I had just got married, friends invited us to their wedding. Instead of normal wedding gifts they wanted everyone to contribute to their honeymoon which was diving the great barrier reef or some shite like that. I'm sitting at home broke, scrapping to make it month to month and I'm gonna help pay for someone' s elaborate honeymoon. Hell my wife and I went to New Orleans for our honeymoon.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:26 pm to danilo
If it were for me:
I wouldn't expect anyone outside of close family and friends to attend. No expectations of acquaintances or distant family to go. And I better be balling enough to pay for everybody. Otherwise it's a dick move.
I wouldn't expect anyone outside of close family and friends to attend. No expectations of acquaintances or distant family to go. And I better be balling enough to pay for everybody. Otherwise it's a dick move.
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 9:27 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:28 pm to danilo
It's nice for the bride and groom but a HUGE inconvenience for everyone else. If it's not within 2.5 hours from Lafayette I'm not going. I've had people get really mad and offended but I'm not wasting my vacation days and money on someone else's wedding. They can get over themselves.
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 9:29 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:29 pm to Hankg
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The best I have seen so far though is years ago ,when my wife and I had just got married, friends invited us to their wedding. Instead of normal wedding gifts they wanted everyone to contribute to their honeymoon which was diving the great barrier reef or some shite like that. I'm sitting at home broke, scrapping to make it month to month and I'm gonna help pay for someone' s elaborate honeymoon. Hell my wife and I went to New Orleans for our honeymoon.
Why would you care what they wanted as their gift/gifts? Were you not planning on giving them one
That sounds more practical than the 8 cheese trays i have taking up cabinet space never to be used
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 9:30 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:29 pm to danilo
The ones at all-inclusive beach resorts are super trashy. The wedding is practically free because all guests have to purchase overpriced rooms.
Tennessee seems okay. They probably just want the pretty mountain pictures.
Tennessee seems okay. They probably just want the pretty mountain pictures.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:30 pm to Jcorye1
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It is one of the most egotistical things on the planet. You're lucky I'm going to your wedding, you're out of your mind if you think I'm paying for a vacation that will get zero use because your dumbass can't get married at a local nice spot.
Maybe we've had different experiences, but the people that I know that have done them have done so because they cannot afford a big wedding with a lot of friends and family there. Most do it as a joint wedding/honeymoon and only expect a select few close friends and close family will go.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:31 pm to danilo
Once you've been to 100 of your typical regular church/country club type weddings, destination weddings are fun change up. Especially if you can work a vacation around it.
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 9:32 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:32 pm to danilo
Basically it's a polite way of saying we don't want a bunch of people at our wedding (outside of close family and friends) , just send us a gift.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:35 pm to The Pirate King
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Basically it's a polite way of saying we don't want a bunch of people at our wedding (outside of close family and friends) , just send us a gift.
I can see this, but that's kind of crappy too.
"I don't really want you at my wedding, but can you send me free shite?"
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:36 pm to danilo
Destination weddings are awesome as long as the bride and groom don't get butthurt when some folks choose not to or can't attend.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:41 pm to The Pirate King
Jeesh, a lot of hate for the destination wedding folks in here.
We did ours because we did not care to have a whole bunch of people at our wedding that we either barely knew, or rarely saw. We sent invitations to all of those that we would have liked to come, with the understanding that they might not be able to make it. We did not resent anyone that did not show-up.
In the end, we had a great time and so did the people that did attend, so it worked for us.
We did ours because we did not care to have a whole bunch of people at our wedding that we either barely knew, or rarely saw. We sent invitations to all of those that we would have liked to come, with the understanding that they might not be able to make it. We did not resent anyone that did not show-up.
In the end, we had a great time and so did the people that did attend, so it worked for us.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:49 pm to RummelTiger
I don't think it is a big deal if you only expect your closest friends and family to come. Also, give as much notice as possible. Our wedding was in NYC and we gave 2 years notice. The only people who came were immediate family and our very closest friends, about 6 friends total. We also made sure everyone knew that we would understand if they couldn't come. My brother-in-law was the one person who couldn't manage to come up with the money over 2 years and so we paid for his flight. Nevermind that he was in NYC the month before but that is for an entirely different thread. 
I think brides who have 10 bridesmaids and expect them to do everything for them for an entire year including multiple lavish parties are much more selfish than most destination wedding couples.
I think brides who have 10 bridesmaids and expect them to do everything for them for an entire year including multiple lavish parties are much more selfish than most destination wedding couples.
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 9:52 pm
Posted on 9/21/15 at 9:54 pm to BigB0882
Destination weddings are absolutely the way to go.
If you got an invite that's a good sign.
You do not have to go and there will be no hard feelings if you don't.
All good.
They should have a party when they get back. You can go to that.
If you got an invite that's a good sign.
You do not have to go and there will be no hard feelings if you don't.
All good.
They should have a party when they get back. You can go to that.
Posted on 9/21/15 at 10:16 pm to FairhopeTider
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Once you've been to 100 of your typical regular church/country club type weddings, destination weddings are fun change up. Especially if you can work a vacation around it.
I agree 100%. As long as the destination is easily accessible and doesn't kill the wallet (meaning fly into a decent sized airport and not in Yellowstone Airport), I'm perfectly okay with it.
I'm so worn out of the country club/city club rehearsal dinner/wedding venue too. Give me a cool place!
ETA: We recently went to a wedding where the rehearsal dinner was at a distillery. It was fantastic! Such an awesome change of pace! No one ever did that back when we were all getting hitched 30 years ago. The wedding was at their normal church, but the reception was at a farm 10 minutes from the church. Very beautiful piece of property that allowed the guests inside and outside access.
This post was edited on 9/21/15 at 10:20 pm
Posted on 9/22/15 at 12:56 am to TigerBait1127
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Why would you care what they wanted as their gift/gifts? Were you not planning on giving them one That sounds more practical than the 8 cheese trays i have taking up cabinet space never to be used
I would care because its my money! Call me old fashioned but I think the purpose of a wedding gift is to help a couple get started in life by helping them set up a home / furnishings. Not to send them on an extravagant vacation. I gave them a very nice gift, just not a vacation. Sorry about your cheese trays.
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