re: Cancer has finally caught up with my family

As some one who is currently fighting brain cancer and has been fighting cancer for 3 years. The best thing you can do for them is spend time with them and don't talk about cancer. Get their mind off cancer as much as you can. It's such a helpless feeling knowing your body is trying to kill you. I have melanoma, I got cancer from the sun. How can I even hate on the sun, nothing would be here without it! Anyways it sucks, a lot, but more people beat cancer than don't with the advanced treatments we have now days. You just here about the ones who don't make it more. Take it one day at a time and do everything the doctors tell you and it will go your way. Do things for them without them asking, that is the most special feeling that shows they truly care.

My mom had lung last year. Tumor shrunk. Fast forward three months. It’s fricking growing again and now it’s in her colon stage 4. I’ve never felt like this, but the way everything went down I partially blame doctors. If I had the money I would have sent her to md Anderson. I just think ochnser didn’t react fast enough.

Regardless, I love her so much. I’m tearing up right now thinking that this may be our last Christmas together.

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I blame Columbus Ohio in the specific area they grew up for the reason for them all having cancer.

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As someone who lives in Columbus, I’m completely unaware of any cancer clusters in the vicinity, and even then, the majority of clusters are more likely due to randomness than some specific (external) cause. And in the unfortunate situation in your family, I would think that some sort of issue specific to that immediate family is more likely, but that could when been due to randomness.

First of all my prayers and well wishes are with you and your family!

I was diagnosed with Stage IV colorectal cancer almost 4 years ago. I was told then that I was inoperable and had around 2 years to live with treatment and months without.

Long story made short, I ended up having two liver resections done 6 weeks apart at MD Anderson in Houston, and here it is almost 4 years later still sucking air and doing pretty well considering.

Like was said above just be there for your loved one. Offer to help with simple chores like shopping, cooking, cleaning etc. WHile I can still do a good bit when on chemo I simply do not have the energy to do all the chores I need to do. Don't wait for them to ask because if they are like me, they never will ask for help.

Just being there for support is a huge lift.

I posted the above to let you know that cancer is no longer an immediate death sentence. Lots of treatment options out there and more are being developed all the time. THere is hope so just try to be supportive and rememember that no matter how tough it is on you to deal with this news, it is much harder for your sister to deal with.
Just my thoughts,
Tim

Lost one of my sisters in October to cancer. My father, aunt, step daughter, and now my sister have all died of cancer. And all of my sisters (4) have all had cancer with one dying.

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As someone who lives in Columbus, I’m completely unaware of any cancer clusters in the vicinity, and even then, the majority of clusters are more likely due to randomness than some specific (external) cause. And in the unfortunate situation in your family, I would think that some sort of issue specific to that immediate family is more likely, but that could when been due to randomness.

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Like i said, I work in the field. Every person that lived in a house in this area has been diagnosed with cancer in their lifetime. LINK

Mom died of breast cancer, Gma died of brain cancer, Gpa died of lung cancer, uncle died of pancreatic cancer, Aunt survived breast cancer, uncle survived prostate cancer. I had BRAC analysis done and have no known hereditary markers.

This was during the 50's to 60's (when she was growing up) so who knows what could have led to this but it is not genetics. Environmental factors are to blame.