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re: Adopting a child....
Posted on 2/8/14 at 7:57 am to lsunurse
Posted on 2/8/14 at 7:57 am to lsunurse
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Point is.....adoption is a great and selfless thing. We shouldn't be making someone feel bad because they are considering adoption.
No, adopting a 3rd world country baby, drug baby, or 8 year old foster kid is a selfless thing. Adopting a healthy american baby from some knocked up teenager when you are able to have kids is selfish.
I don't know what his plans were so I can say on the OP
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Posted on 2/8/14 at 8:41 am to Winkface
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sounds like people don't know just how common it is
Just because it's common doesn't make it easy to go through.
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And I imagine every couple is nervous going to a doctor's appointment while pregnant.
If you haven't experienced multiple loss of your pregnancy and feel like you may never have kids of your own, after years, finally getting pregnant and going to the doctor is light years different from a first pregnancy or normal circumstance pregnancy. I speak from a lot of experience. Absolutely ridiculous to compare the two.
Posted on 2/8/14 at 8:47 am to jojothetireguy
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Me and my wife had 3 miscarriages and are now expecting our first in June. Those things happen
awesome, congrats! Same exact situation, expecting in May. 
Posted on 2/8/14 at 8:50 am to VanRIch
quote:never said that.
Just because it's common doesn't make it easy to go through.
quote:his situation is different than yours. That's what I was referring to.
Absolutely ridiculous to compare the two.
Posted on 2/8/14 at 8:54 am to Dandy Lion
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The power of prayer and desire cannot be underestimated, IMO
After 7 miscarriages in 10 yrs and no kids, we are beginning to disagree. Its just not in His plans.
Posted on 2/8/14 at 8:56 am to TJG210
Didn't read all the other posts.
Adopted 3 girls all half sisters and different times.
Questions?
Adopted 3 girls all half sisters and different times.
Questions?
Posted on 2/8/14 at 9:03 am to DLauw
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i didn't mean to rustle jimmies, my thought process is there are a ton of children here (in US) born into abysmal life conditions too. I believe in the mantra "we take care of our own first".
While our foster system may be better than China's or Ethiopia's it's not the greatest life for some of these kids. There are many, many cases of abuse in foster homes by folks who are just in it to be predators and collect a check.
Also those international adoption/trade routes are ones commonly used by human traffickers for slavery.
You are letting politics cloud your judgement. Your question should be: Who can I save from a living hell of a life and offer them a great life? A kid from some knocked up middle class teenager is not one of them. A kid in an orphanage doomed to work in a sweet shop 19 hours a day 7 days a week is the type of person I want to save. Politics are irrelevant, and I myself am not dealing in human trafficking, so why should I let that stop me?
Posted on 2/8/14 at 9:08 am to Winkface
Gotcha carry on then.
I will say the guy lost me when he said it would be beneficial to not have to take time off of work. My wife and I struggled for years to have our own natural child. Taking lots of time off work and spending lots of money. You shouldn't have a child based off of convenient circumstances. We had a lot of problems, backed by fertility doctor evaluations. We did several different fertility treatments. We did the extremely demanding (physically for my wife and emotionally for both of us) IVF twice. We really didn't think we would do it again. And it worked the second time praise God. But adoption probably would have been our next option if it hadn't. We are considering adoption if we want another because of the toll it took on my wife to do IVF. Doctors say that our chances of conceiving naturally are slim for reasons they were not able to determine.
I will say the guy lost me when he said it would be beneficial to not have to take time off of work. My wife and I struggled for years to have our own natural child. Taking lots of time off work and spending lots of money. You shouldn't have a child based off of convenient circumstances. We had a lot of problems, backed by fertility doctor evaluations. We did several different fertility treatments. We did the extremely demanding (physically for my wife and emotionally for both of us) IVF twice. We really didn't think we would do it again. And it worked the second time praise God. But adoption probably would have been our next option if it hadn't. We are considering adoption if we want another because of the toll it took on my wife to do IVF. Doctors say that our chances of conceiving naturally are slim for reasons they were not able to determine.
Posted on 2/8/14 at 9:11 am to VanRIch
Yeah, definitely an odd comment.
Good luck with everything. Never know what can happen.
Good luck with everything. Never know what can happen.
Posted on 2/8/14 at 9:53 am to VanRIch
Quite honestly there are a lot of considerations that we're putting into this, not just that it's convenient. Possibly having another set of twins is another consideration. It's not like we're making this decision based on convenience. We also really want to a child a loving home that may not otherwise be as fortunate.
This post was edited on 2/8/14 at 9:55 am
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