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re: ? For Stepdads
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:10 pm to TigerVespamon
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:10 pm to TigerVespamon
Let it come natural don’t start forcing. Trust me no kid hates a step parent more than the parent who tries to force it.
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Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:15 pm to TigerVespamon
“The kids”, “My kid” are both acceptable to use no matter the conversation. You can also use their ages- “My 12 year old said/did...”
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:18 pm to TigerVespamon
Is your wife cool with the kids calling the father's wife "mom"?
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:18 pm to DLauw
“The kids” ...acceptable. They are kids and the ones you are referring to.
quote:again, if the dad is in the situation, they aren’t “your kids.”
“My kid”
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:21 pm to Rouge
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If Dad is actively involved in life of the kids, then don't fall for her trap
Exactly what I was thinking. Seems a bit like she’s trying to get back at the ex in a passive aggressive kind of way.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:22 pm to northshorebamaman
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Ok. I refer to my stepdaughter as my daughter but I've raised her since she was 2 and her biological father hasn't attempted contact in 16 years. It's highly dependent on the situation.
I have a step daughter that was 11 when my wife and I got married. I always refer to her as my step daughter. Her dad was still pretty involved with her back then. Not so much now. She's been out of the house for several years now.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:23 pm to TigerVespamon
I'm a step child...do not do this.
ETA: my stepdad raised me and I am closer to him than my real dad by far.
ETA: my stepdad raised me and I am closer to him than my real dad by far.
This post was edited on 10/9/18 at 6:24 pm
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:25 pm to fr33manator
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As a dad, I don’t want any other man calling my kids their son or daughter. Or them calling another man dad. I’m their dad. They don’t need another one.
I can understand that.
This post was edited on 10/10/18 at 6:33 am
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:25 pm to HempHead
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It depends on how old they were when you took over, and the degree to which their biological father plays a role in their life.
This is the right answer.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:27 pm to HempHead
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It depends on how old they were when you took over, and the degree to which their biological father plays a role in their life.
My two girls were 3 and 5 when I married their mom, their father in and out of their lives until their late teenage years.
I call them my daughters, family members who know the history know they're not my biological kids but extremely supportive thru the years. Others I tell as the need arises.
I raised them in the dad role. Sometimes I'm called dad others not as they got older. I left it to them to decide. It's usually dad when they're in trouble lol.
Next to my wife they are the most valuable and cherished people in my life.
And they know that, the most important thing especially when they're young like mine were. Divorce is especially traumatic for little kids.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:30 pm to TigerVespamon
Son reference - I’ve known them sense they were 6 and 10. Over 24 years
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:30 pm to TigerVespamon
I always refer the my stepdaughter as my daughter unless the distinction makes a difference. I treat her just like I would a biological daughter. No reason to refer to her as step.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:31 pm to Tester1216
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When I was pregnant for my son, my stepson told me, “I know who you’re going to love the most when you have the baby.”
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:35 pm to northshorebamaman
I know 
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:36 pm to fr33manator
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If he’s a deadbeat sperm donor that ran out on them long ago that’s one thing. But if he’s in their lives and doing what he can it’s very disrespectful.
Every situation is different, sure. But if their real father is in the picture you won’t ever replace him
My stepdaughter's dad introduces me as her "other dad". And no, we're not gay lovers. I married her mother. He and I get along very well. We keep in mind that she is the most important person and everything works from there We respect each other. I am not worried about all of the other BS. And yes, I have biologicals.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:38 pm to TigerVespamon
I generally refer to my stepkids as just “my kids”, but go into more specifics as needed.
It’s easier to do so with kids who are with you most of the time vs ones who are mainly with the other parent most of the time.
It’s easier to do so with kids who are with you most of the time vs ones who are mainly with the other parent most of the time.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:39 pm to The Pirate King
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can’t speak for real life, but in the porn videos they do.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:40 pm to TigerVespamon
I knew this one chick...she was fun in the sack but BATSHIT crazy. Had 4 kids. Well once I wouldn’t take care of her brood she would go from man to man trying to get someone to take care of them.
Well she had some chump that she convinced to let her and her kids move in after less than a month.
Now their real dad was still in the picture And trying (she was a cheater).
Well just a few weeks in she had this dude she barely knew calling them HIS kids.
Their kids.
It was frankly sickening.
Well she had some chump that she convinced to let her and her kids move in after less than a month.
Now their real dad was still in the picture And trying (she was a cheater).
Well just a few weeks in she had this dude she barely knew calling them HIS kids.
Their kids.
It was frankly sickening.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 6:41 pm to TigerVespamon
Whatever comes natural. I wouldn’t force them to call you anything they didn’t want to.
Posted on 10/9/18 at 8:41 pm to terriblegreen
My step son is 33 years old and still lives with me and his mom. I barely even acknowledge his existence much less call him son because he is been a leach for 12 years. Someone top that.
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