re: As a man it can be really hard to admit without looking weak

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Anybody ever experienced this? Advice?

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yessir. went through it about two years ago, actually came here to get it all off of my chest. the girl i dated was really similar to the one you’re describing with several different phobias and mental issues i was unaware of at the start. difference is, my ex actually did “attempt” to kill herself (although if you know anything about cutting, you know which is “real” and which is for attention). it wore me out. mentally, emotionally and even physically, i was completely drained.

it took a few months before i was able to feel comfortable enough to “talk,” if that makes sense. i flirted and fooled around but never got to a point where i was serious about a relationship until about 8 months later— even then (and now) i’m not 100% comfortable with opening myself completely up like that again, because of the hell she put me through.

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Threatening suicide all the time. I like to think I’m a mentally strong dude but I underestimated the mind frick that would follow.

I left her the other day, and now she’s telling me “I hope you feel good when I kill myself”

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i’m glad you were able to build up the courage to finally let go. i figure you’ve been wanting it for a while but it takes a leap to finally cut ties. i thought i was strong enough to handle whatever shite a female could throw at me, but damn if i didn’t find out soon enough i’m not as tough as i thought i was. don’t let her mind games and the “you’ll miss me when i’m six feet under” fool you.

stay strong and remember that you’re doing what is best for YOU. if you ever need to talk to someone who’s been through similar or just need to get things off your chest, my line is always open.