re: Children Deciding Which Parent to Live With

It depends on the judge and also the child. If he is a mature 14 year old the judge may take his preference into account as long as he/she sees both parents as suitable. There is no set age at which they can decide and it all depends on how heavily your judge lets the child preference weigh in. I just went through this and the judge took my 12 year olds (at the time) thoughts very seriously. She is also very smart, mature, and will probably be a lawyer herself one day. So ask around about the judge's history with input from kids. Odds are you lawyer has dealt with this judge before and has a good idea of where they stand.