re: Being There For A Parent That Abandoned You And Has Been A Source Of Pain Your Entire Life

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I don't think very many people die wanting to be alone and without anyone supporting them. So I think its almost impossible to say that someone in that situation truly had a change of heart outside of their emotions from a looming death.

Given that, I'm not sure continuing to abandon a direct relative says a lot about someone personally no matter what they were put through by them.

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A direct relative? Just because someone is a blood relative doesn't mean they are family.

My immediate family isn't that close. My dad passed away when I was 19, my mom started "dating" someone within weeks after he passed. At a certain point she picked him and his family over her three kids. I am the youngest, my brother and sister are actually my half siblings. I see them both a few times a year and I actually see the both of them more than they see each other.

While things are better now, it's not really "family". I have a group of friends who have been there for me and vice versa since we have first known each other. I consider them family more than anything..

If a parent up and decides they don't want to be a parent anymore because they want to enjoy life and they up and leave their kids and then they get to a point where they have no one else to turn to so they call their kids. That person doesn't deserve to have their kids come back in their life.

I know some people think that isn't the "right thing" to do, but when you have kids you have to take responsibility. To up and leave them doesn't do anything good for them, it leaves them with scars that will stay with them forever.

You don't get to leave your kids and then expect them to be there for you whenever you decide you need them. They should not have to be put in that situation. But I know what I would do if I were in that situation. I'll be there for the people who were there for me throughout my life, that's who deserves my time and energy, not some selfish bitch, who happened to give birth to me... Then up and leaves.