Whomever mentioned forgiveness and mercy is spot on. You will be a better person for forgiving those that have wronged you and not have to potentially live with the regrets later on in life.
Think about years from now when your kids ask about your Mom. You can tell them about how you overcame all the terrible things she did, sucked up all the negative emotions and offered her forgiveness or that you listened to a bunch of hard asses on an Internet forum and just ignored her. I can promise you one thing, you will definitely not have any regrets by talking to her while there’s a good chance you will have some regrets if you ignore her.

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Posted by brian_wilson

Member since Oct 2016

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Posted on 5/15/18 at 6:25 pm to sleepytime

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I can promise you one thing, you will definitely not have any regrets by talking to her while there’s a good chance you will have some regrets if you ignore her.

living life to avoid regrets is a really shitty way to live IMHO.

the people referred in the OP have one person to keep in mind when they engage with their mother: themselves. Its pretty clear the mother didn't look out for them. She isn't about to start cause she is about to die.

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Posted by CrimsonTideMD

Member since Dec 2010

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Posted on 5/15/18 at 8:49 pm to sleepytime

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can promise you one thing, you will definitely not have any regrets by talking to her while there’s a good chance you will have some regrets if you ignore her.

Real nice platitude you offered up, but it doesn’t apply to every one.

As far as other folks family situations, you don’t know shite about shite.

My mother is absolutely toxic. But I’ve had a lifetime to build up a callous and learn to deal with her.

I wouldn’t get involved with a situation like the OP described because my wife and daughter are too sweet and innocent to be exposed to her madness.

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