re: Being There For A Parent That Abandoned You And Has Been A Source Of Pain Your Entire Life

My father died of cirrhosis of the liver about six years ago. I think I talked to him two or three times in the years before he died. I made the choice to break off all contact with my mother probably two years ago and couldn't be happier. If I found out she was dying tomorrow I don't really know how I would react, although I doubt strongly I would drop everything to return to Louisiana to help her. Actually, I know I wouldn't...

Adults make their own choices. As a child you are not free of the consequences of your parents' actions.

As an adult you are, if you let yourself be. I can't say what's right or wrong for anyone else, only myself.