Buddy, I’m going to give you some advice that will work every day of the week. Try this out and you will see the difference immediately, even in a shop full of people who will want to hate you.

The first thing you should say to a person you have to deal with is, “I hope everyone is treating you well today.” They will light up. Follow that up with “Because I know people are crazy.” After that, they will do anything for you.

Try it with the Wal Mart cashier. Try it with anyone who has to deal with drivers. This is solid gold. I use it every day.

I’m serious. If you look half the scary white guy as I imagine, people will fall over themselves trying to help you after you say that.

Some people expect you to be an a-hole. When you say what I’ve just suggested, you will be off the a-hole list in their eyes immediately.

I’m serious about this advice.

This post was edited on 4/21/18 at 2:00 pm

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Posted by NoSaint

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Posted on 4/21/18 at 2:39 pm to TBoy

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The first thing you should say to a person you have to deal with is, “I hope everyone is treating you well today.” They will light up. Follow that up with “Because I know people are crazy.” After that, they will do anything for you.

Try it with the Wal Mart cashier. Try it with anyone who has to deal with drivers. This is solid gold. I use it every day.

Nailed it.

And I tend to follow up any of my misdeeds (real or perceived) with this defense

People tend to take you as on their side and well intentioned pretty quick if you lead with empathy for their situation and are fine with apologizing for being clumsy when things are off track. I don’t care if strangers I’m not seeing anytime soon think I’m a friendly idiot instead just of an intelligent jerk.

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