re: Doubt this has happened to a TDer before.

That's an awful story, and it really sucks she and y'all found out that way.

The child was very young when your wife had to give him up though. These people raised the child because your wife wasn't able to/etc. It seems incredibly selfish of her to try so hard to make contact with him in the first place.

What bond are they going to share? I birthed you, you're from me, but I just couldn't...

I just don't know man.