re: Arguments with spouse over money

I just find that approach to marriage bizarre and empty. Why did you marry her?

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You misunderstood my point. Income inequality is a huge issue. If one makes 100,000 and one makes 30,000, you can be "in it together" while still having issues. Sorry I don't bust my arse to give all my money to my wife.

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My wife made almost double what I did early on before we had twins. She changed careers to spend more time at home and now I make a lot more than she does. We don't really compare incomes vs spending now but she probably spends more than me. She lets me manage the money so I'm good. We're also in our early 40s so it took some time to find a workable system for us

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Arguments with spouse over money
You misunderstood my point. Income inequality is a huge issue. If one makes 100,000 and one makes 30,000, you can be "in it together" while still having issues. Sorry I don't bust my arse to give all my money to my wife.

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My wife and I always made equal money from the time we started dating until 6 or 7 years ago. When we made equal money we split all bills 50/50. 7 years ago she took a job that moved us from NC to Baton Rouge and I had to take a 20k pay cut to follow her career because she had a degree and an opportunity to better us faster than my career path. We talked about it like adults and we came to the conclusion that I could no longer afford to split the bills 50/50 and she said she would cover them all except for my truck note and insurance. We still spilt groceries at this point and she still paid all the bills.


We have never argued over money no matter who is the making the most.