re: Married baws - how do y'all handle finances

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So if y'all don't want kids and are going to keep everything separate, why even get married?

Serious question

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We aren't keeping everything separate. It's really just the finances. We've been living together since we got engaged and everything has gone really well. It's almost like don't fix it if it isn't broken. We're both very particular when it comes to managing money. I pay bills like electric, fiber tv and internet, and water. Just because I like paying bills. So she just sends me money once a money Venmo style. Then we agree to save certain amounts of money each month for travel and other things. With the way we handle things, I don't have to worry about how she spends money, and she doesn't worry about me. We have what we need for the things we've agreed on, and we can spend the rest as we see fit. I can go out and buy a car or do whatever and I don't have to say a word to her about it as long as it works within the confines of what we've agreed to budget. Same with her.

We're getting married because we have a good relationship and we're both happy together and we live together. When you get married, you're making a vow to the other person because you want that bond, irrespective of the prospect of children entering into the picture. At least that's my take on it. Children may very well happen at some point down the road, but she's been adamant about not having them, ever. And I'm pretty much indifferent. I can see the pros and cons. It's not at all practical with either of our careers right now. She's in an almost completely male dominated field that is extremely competitive and it's not the least bit practical for her to have a child. We both work a lot so it wouldn't be fair to have a child and not be there as much as we should be.