re: Living together before marriage

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it makes the wedding less substantial of a change. Week before marriage is the same as two weeks after.

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That's bullshite. Why put all of that pressure on one event?

Moving in together is usually a gradual process. You're at one or the other's place most of the time anyway, you're probably having sex at that point, you're just moving your stuff to complete the transition.

If you're living together the wedding is still an important event. You're just not rolling the dice to see if you can stand each other after transitioning from seeing each other daily to being together 24-7.

I wouldn't advise people to live together unless they were very serious. And if you're engaged, I'd suggest that you live together for a few months before setting the date.