re: Taylor Swift breaks the internet (NSFW)

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There is zero reason for men to get married these days. There is nothing in it for them. Men have nothing to gain and everything to lose by getting married. When a man gets married, the woman has all the power. The most valuable thing a man can give away is his commitment, the most valuable thing a woman can give away is sex. But in a marriage, a man can no longer walk away, which is where all his leverage lies in a relationship

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Marriage is tough. It's hard work and it's a constant struggle. It's certainly not for the weak, the ill-tempered, those who lack personal responsibility, or those who are selfish.

But the rewards far outweigh the effort.

That said, there's nothing easy about it. It takes compromise, giving up things you love, trading the good of your self for the good of the relationship, trust, hard work, and sacrifice. But you surrender yourself completely to another person and she does the same for you there isn't a better feeling in the world.

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Why should I "man up" and marry a slut who has had multiple sexual partners and allow her access to everything I have worked my arse off for, which she can get control of simply by divorcing me. No thanks.

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It is absolutely not for everyone. Some people would rather remain untethered and selfish. And there's nothing wrong with that.

It takes a great deal of vetting and trust to marry a woman. And yes of course there is risk involved. But you have to know what you're getting into. You can't get married for lust or on a whim or for looks. You have to find a stong trustworthy partner who shares the same goals and the same values and the same beliefs as you. You have to vett her family and her friends. Look at the relationship her parents have and how she treats her family because one day that'll be you.

Marriage isn't for everyone, and it's brutal and shitty and hard sometimes, but if you work at it it is absolutely worth it.

One of my favorite quotes us that the bond and rewards of a good healthy marriage are impossible to explain from the inside out and impossible to imagine from the outside looking in.

But if you want to have kids there is an overabundance of scientific evidence that a strong two parent household produces the most well rounded children.

As for being able to walk away whenever you want and never committing, that's a young scared man's fantasy. There's nothing easy about commitment. It takes balls and it takes work.

Ask any old man who never got married and never had kids when he's gotten too old to womanize and too old to bar hop and he'll say he looks back on a life wasted and squandered in youth.