re: Do you visit peoples gravesites?

Yeah it wasn't really a gotcha attempt or anything, and I've always looked at a funeral and wake as for the living, not the dead.

As for the OP, I used to work next to the site where a good friend and a cousin were buried. For a few years I'd pick up lunch and go eat there every few weeks in the spring and fall. It was very pleasant and relaxing, but too each their own. I don't think there is really a normal way to grieve, so whatever works.