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Wait until you're in your 40s and marry a hot 28yo who will have a completely different set of expectations and you'll have a happy wife, a happy marriage and a happy life.

I feel like this would be a really selfish lifestyle and one that could cause your friends to alienate you. And therefore possibly a lonely one. My logic is thus: you're advising to wait until your 40s to marry. But what does one do in the meantime? Casually date girls while in your late 20s, 30s, and early 40s? The older you get the harder this will be to do, and it's really unfair to date a woman around the same age and not be interested in something more serious. Granted I'm sure there are women out there not looking for marriage, but girls also really seem to have trouble letting go of emotional issues past relationships. It seems like your quality dating pool would really shrink.

So maybe you are suggesting continually dating girls in their mid 20s until your 40s? It seems like this would advocate a lifestyle that could be difficult and weird to maintain. Although I will say that online dating may facilitate this more. But at this point, you're dating 20 year olds and all of your friends are married and some are starting to have kids. Plus if you are in your 40s, and are an only child, I think most parents would probably be sad they don't have any grandkids by now. Unless you suggest being a single father as well.

It just seems like a lonely life filled with lots of emotionally unfulfilling casual dating and probably banging a lot of people, which is cool, but I feel like when you get older you shouldn't slut it up anymore.

Having said all this, if you adjusted the age to maybe mid 30s, I'd see it as a viable lifestyle. Would be interested in hearing a rebuttal, specifically about being single in your late 30s when most people you know have kids and family obligations.

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Posted by CAD703X

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Posted on 10/22/15 at 10:49 am to DollaChoppa

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DollaChoppa

damn dolla you all serious and junk.

ok i wont quote the entirety again (people can read it above) but the gist is:

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I feel like this would be a really selfish lifestyle and one that could cause your friends to alienate you. And therefore possibly a lonely one.

1. How many friends do you have that got married in their 20s are still happily married?

2. How many are divorced now or *WISH* they were divorced (constant bitching about their wife)?

3. How many college-age women exist that do *NOT* have an Oprah-fueled, liberal-college-professored-view of their own vulnerabilities that are directly..or indirectly..projected onto whatever poor sucker is dumb enough to marry them?

4. How many of your 'friends that have kids and family obligations' are currently (or about to) go through complete DIVORCE HELL which will destroy them emotionally, physically, financially..and probably destroy their kids in the process?

So I therefore submit, the FAR more selfish lifestyle is the 23 year old man who marries his 21 year old college 'sweetheart' only to discover 7-10 years later she resents him because she thinks he "blew" her chance to marry her Oprah-tinted Prince Charming Metrosexual Touchy Feely Man?

The 40 year old man has his shite on lock and at 28 its more likely a woman he meets and marries will have a much more realistic expectation on a life with a man who likes to watch football, fart & tinker on cars.

And on a totally selfish note, a hot 28yo is a much better indicator of how she will look at 40 than a 21yo.