re: Need Miscarriage Advice (update Pg 3, Miscarriage Official)

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How can I help him and his wife in this troubling time? Flowers, Candy, Card? I've never experienced a miscarriage this close to someone I know. Also, how can I help myself and my wife not feel guilty about our pregnancy but still be mindful of our close friends?

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My wife miscarried last year, a week after her best friend announced on Facebook. Their due dates were a week apart from each other.

Honestly, I would be lying to you if I said my wife wasn't angry and jealous of her friend. She was mad at the world, and everyone around her. I can easily see how women commit suicide over this sort of thing. Wife went through all the classic steps of grieving- depression, despair, anger, loneliness etc.

With all that said, it also seems like everyone reacts differently to miscarriages. I would reach out and just try to talk to them. Don't assume (or say) you know how they feel. Just ask how are they doing today. Ask if they want company. Try and get the guy out for a beer and feel out how his wife (and he) is doing. I know that worked for us. Good luck.