re: Question to OT about an old flame

Okay... here is the advice of an oldster. Please take it.

1. Realize first that your relationship with this woman is toxic to future relationships you may have with others. Best to move on.

2. Ego-stroke for you: guess what? She still wants you. That's great, man. Pat yourself on the back. But guess what else? There will be many instances to come in your life where someone will want you, or you will want someone else... and it either can't or shouldn't happen. You have to be mature about it. Learn to love yourself more, and you will find you don't need the desire of others to validate your view of yourself. Check that ego, brother.

3. Your "good friend" swiped a good girl you were interested in right out from under your nose. This is not friendly behavior. This is the behavior of someone who puts himself before you. Don't take advice from him anymore. You should treat yourself better than to maintain relationships with people who act against your self-interest.

Bottom line: you need a new circle of friends. Let these connections wither and die.