re: What happens the moment we learn someone we love has died ?

I think your reaction depends some on how the person died. If they've been sick a long time, you kind of come to expect it so you prepare yourself and it's not as much of a freak out.

But if someone dies unexpectedly in an accident or from a heart attack, your reaction will likely be more dramatic. Even then, to some people the death is more of a shock so they sit there in disbelief until it finally sinks in.

There are supposedly 5-7 different stages of grief, but not everyone goes through all of them:
- Shock or Disbelief
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Guilt
- Depression
- Acceptance and Hope

Sorry you're dealing with this. It sucks, no matter how you handle it.