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Is there a soldier's paradox -thinking about home while deployed and vice versa
Posted on 4/10/15 at 3:59 pm
Posted on 4/10/15 at 3:59 pm
In reading up on some stuff on Appomattox yesterday I came across a section on how veterans from both sides formed many Veterans groups.
It made me think - from everything I've seen and read (I've never served) it seems like while in combat situations, soldier's long for home and loved ones and a more peaceful lifestyle. But it also seems like the vivid experience of combat is such that after they do get home their thoughts are often drawn to those harrowing days and the people they served with.
Anybody ever hear of a term for this phenomenon? Or do any reading on it?
It made me think - from everything I've seen and read (I've never served) it seems like while in combat situations, soldier's long for home and loved ones and a more peaceful lifestyle. But it also seems like the vivid experience of combat is such that after they do get home their thoughts are often drawn to those harrowing days and the people they served with.
Anybody ever hear of a term for this phenomenon? Or do any reading on it?
Posted on 4/10/15 at 4:01 pm to Methuselah
I had a friend that said he would do a 3 month on/3 month off combat rotation for the rest of his career if they let him.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 4:20 pm to Methuselah
I know a Marine Blackhawk pilot that said he would go back in a heartbeat if he hadn't started a huge family once he got out. Said he misses it every day, and he was only feet away from being shot down many times.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 4:22 pm to Methuselah
yea I totally understand the feeling
About 3 months after getting home I really missed being in the environment. I missed my brothers in arms and wanted to get back into the shite with my brothers.
Now when you are in it all you want to do is get out of it.
Its a weird feeling, but I have always said given the chance ill go back
About 3 months after getting home I really missed being in the environment. I missed my brothers in arms and wanted to get back into the shite with my brothers.
Now when you are in it all you want to do is get out of it.
Its a weird feeling, but I have always said given the chance ill go back
This post was edited on 4/10/15 at 4:23 pm
Posted on 4/10/15 at 4:43 pm to Methuselah
Yes, I do miss my Brothers in arms when I return, I don't necessarily miss the combat, just the people.
Something about a bond between people when you have been through war them that makes them more of a Family member than a buddy.
While over there, myself I was on mission, thinking about the mission until I got to some down time, then my mind wonders off to la-la land thinking and wanting home.
Something about a bond between people when you have been through war them that makes them more of a Family member than a buddy.
While over there, myself I was on mission, thinking about the mission until I got to some down time, then my mind wonders off to la-la land thinking and wanting home.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 4:50 pm to Methuselah
It's weird to say it, but there were times of my deployment to Iraq that I definitely enjoyed. There were far more good days then bad days. Thing is the bad days were ones where you thought you might not see tomorrow. There were only about 2 or 3 of those for me. I don't want any part of those days again. At the same time I have some weird sense of pride that I got shot at, or almost blown up on a couple of occasions.
Overall it's a simple life. You go out and look for bad guys or wait for bad guys to come to you. Otherwise you're relaxing. That jives with me because that's how I live my life. I like to keep it simple without a bunch of unnecessary fluff.
I don't want to go back or anything but I had some good times over there, mainly with my fellow soldiers. Obviously some had worse experiences than I had.
Overall it's a simple life. You go out and look for bad guys or wait for bad guys to come to you. Otherwise you're relaxing. That jives with me because that's how I live my life. I like to keep it simple without a bunch of unnecessary fluff.
I don't want to go back or anything but I had some good times over there, mainly with my fellow soldiers. Obviously some had worse experiences than I had.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 4:50 pm to Methuselah
That first paragraph suits me to a t. Now that I'm a civilian I think about my deployment and experiences from it a lot.
But I try to focus on finishing all my courses before I apply to ot programs
But I try to focus on finishing all my courses before I apply to ot programs
Posted on 4/10/15 at 5:32 pm to Methuselah
Being in the military fricks you up.
We actually wanted to go to sea when in port.
We actually wanted to go to sea when in port.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 7:30 pm to Methuselah
I served but was never in combat. When I got out I join a group that does dumb shite. It's addicting it's a rush like nothing else in life hell it's a drug. Bring away from loved ones and home is a strong very strong emotion. The excitement of what's keeping you away from them is way more valid. Often when they come home they realize home ain't all that compared to the RUSH.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 7:36 pm to Methuselah
The grass is always greener.
Posted on 4/10/15 at 7:37 pm to Methuselah
Watch the beginning of Apocolypse Now when Sheen is in the hotel room by himself, nails it.
I recenly had a really good soldier in front of me for mickey mouse stuff and he had taken to brawling in local bars. I asked what was up and he said he missed the shite. I told him i did too but we are home know and its different. He was quiet for about a minute and said "im not fricked in the head because of what we done, im fricked in the head cuase we cant do it anymore"
I recenly had a really good soldier in front of me for mickey mouse stuff and he had taken to brawling in local bars. I asked what was up and he said he missed the shite. I told him i did too but we are home know and its different. He was quiet for about a minute and said "im not fricked in the head because of what we done, im fricked in the head cuase we cant do it anymore"
Posted on 4/11/15 at 10:35 am to Methuselah
Some people who can't assimilate into society when graduating high school go into military. So when they get out of military and can't assimilate into society sometimes it has nothing to do with military service happenings or Pstd or whatever, they were never able to assimilate before enlisting so they are not able to assimilate after serving.
Posted on 4/11/15 at 10:49 am to Methuselah
That's a very good way of describing a large portion of the military, as several have already pointed out. There are some that seem to compartmentalize the different parts of their lives, maybe coping better than the rest of us.
I'm still in, and for me it can be a struggle losing the tight-knit bond you get when deployed together. Counting on each other, really accomplishing something. To be back with the family, where little things are so dramatic, I just get frustrated.
I'm still in, and for me it can be a struggle losing the tight-knit bond you get when deployed together. Counting on each other, really accomplishing something. To be back with the family, where little things are so dramatic, I just get frustrated.
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