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Anthropologist explains why we cheat on people we love
Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:48 pm
Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:48 pm
There's the sex drive, which is like an "intolerable neural itch," to get us out searching for a range of partners to help pass on our genes. There's romantic love, which helps us focus our mating energy on one person. And then there's attachment, the calm and security we feel with a long-term partner so we can raise children with them as a team.
However, those three brain systems, sex drive, romantic love, and attachment, aren't always connected to each other.
So it's possible to feel deep attachment to a long-term partner at the same time you feel intense romantic love toward someone else and even also feel sexual attraction toward another person, Fisher said.
"In short, we're capable of loving more than one person at a time," Fisher said.
And that's why, Fisher says, some people may cheat on their partner.
It's why someone can lay in bed at night thinking about deep feelings of attachment to one person and swing to thoughts of romantic love for another person.
"It's as if there's a committee meeting going on inside your head as you try to decide what to do," Fisher said. "I don't think honestly that we're an animal that was built to be happy — we're an animal that was built to reproduce. I think the happiness we find, we make."
This all sounds like a cynical take on love, but Fisher says that, despite all these straightforward and unavoidable biological processes, there's still mystery and "magic to it."
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However, those three brain systems, sex drive, romantic love, and attachment, aren't always connected to each other.
So it's possible to feel deep attachment to a long-term partner at the same time you feel intense romantic love toward someone else and even also feel sexual attraction toward another person, Fisher said.
"In short, we're capable of loving more than one person at a time," Fisher said.
And that's why, Fisher says, some people may cheat on their partner.
It's why someone can lay in bed at night thinking about deep feelings of attachment to one person and swing to thoughts of romantic love for another person.
"It's as if there's a committee meeting going on inside your head as you try to decide what to do," Fisher said. "I don't think honestly that we're an animal that was built to be happy — we're an animal that was built to reproduce. I think the happiness we find, we make."
This all sounds like a cynical take on love, but Fisher says that, despite all these straightforward and unavoidable biological processes, there's still mystery and "magic to it."
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Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:50 pm to RedRifle
Darwin, nature, and science explained this a loooooonnnnggg time ago.
Love, marraige, monogamy are all made up human bull shite trying to defy how nature intended us to live.
Love, marraige, monogamy are all made up human bull shite trying to defy how nature intended us to live.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:51 pm to RedRifle
Bookmarked.
I'm gonna use the "biology" defense from now on. It's not my fault!!
I'm gonna use the "biology" defense from now on. It's not my fault!!
Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:51 pm to RedRifle
How many threads do you start a day?
How many are not shitty?
How many are not shitty?
Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:51 pm to RedRifle
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sounds like a cynical take on love
Yes it does.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 3:54 pm to RedRifle
Scientist is clearly advocating a return to the free love era. Bring back the 60's!
Posted on 4/7/15 at 4:02 pm to RedRifle
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"In short, we're capable of loving more than one person at a time," Fisher said.
I agree with this, but we can choose to commit, completely, to one person and stay true to that.
At least I can and have.
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I think the happiness we find, we make.
I don't see any credibility in an argument that is counter to this. Everyone, with few exceptions, is almost 100% in control of whether or not he or she is happy. There are a few with chemical imbalances and other issues outside their control, but by and large happy people will be happy because they want to be (for lack of a better term) - and miserable people are just that - miserable people.
I don't make the rules, just commenting on what I have experienced and observed.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 4:04 pm to RedRifle
Don't put me into this " we" crap nope.
So what they saying is you people cheat because you love them.. Interesting
So what they saying is you people cheat because you love them.. Interesting
Posted on 4/7/15 at 4:20 pm to RedRifle
People in love don't cheat.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 5:59 pm to RedRifle
Some females are natural born whores who don't know how to deal with male attention.
Posted on 4/7/15 at 6:34 pm to RedRifle
I don't care what biology says. If you cheat on someone, regardless of the situation (Yes married men. Even if your wife hasn't touched your dick in 3 years) then you're a massive piece of shite.
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