re: Wife had a miscarriage..This sucks

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Here's the thing. Despite what the doctor says, she will think it is her fault. It is not. And if you ever make her think that, you are worthless (not saying you will just make sure you don't). She will need time.

Remember the date of the DNC and the expecting due date. On those two days for the next few years, she will be upset. She might also get upset if you don't remember. Write those dates down and buy her flowers or something. If she asks why on those days, just say just because and not bring it up. But she will know.

You are her best friend. You need to be even more so. Step it up a notch. Yes, you lost a baby as well and will be sad... but this is the time to make sure it's about her and not you. That doesn't mean you can't be sad, because you should be. Be open about it, but don't make it about you. Give her everything she needs and asks for in the next few weeks.

Seek Counselling if needed. Do not be ashamed to go.

And finally.. do not be afraid to try again. Just make sure it is on her time and not yours.


I know TL:DR

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