re: At what point does a SO become too irresponsible to be with?

I screwed up with money big time in my 20s(racked up a lot of credit card debt while in college...back then it was easy to sign up for credit cards).


I'd say her behavior isn't something you would want her to continue longterm. But it isn't like her situation is hopeless.


When you first start getting real paychecks...it's easy to want to do the things you couldn't afford to do while broke in college. I remember buying extravagant Christmas presents for my family that first Christmas when I was a nurse. I had the money to do so and wanted to splurge. Just have a lil chat with her. She's single, no kids and her only responsibility is to herself right now. She'll figure it out. Don't be the guy that watches every penny she spends. Then she will just end up leaving you and go even crazier with the spending.



Wish I could have told myself back then to watch out.