re: Living/passed grandparents - different treatment (Alzheimer involved) ...TL:DR

I couldn't imagine having to deal with that situation. There's no easy answer.

I will share my experience though. My maternal grandmother had what I would consider a positive Alzheimer's experience. Actually she didn't have Alzheimer's, but she did suffer from severe dementia from a series of strokes and mini strokes. Not long after being diagnosed with this, she was also diagnosed with terminal lung cancer even though she never smoked. But due to the dementia, she never truly realized she was dying. She was at peace throughout the entire length of the illness. She would have good days as far as awareness goes and question why she had to go to the doctor or why hospice was there to see her and we would sometimes tell her about her cancer depending on how we thought she'd handle it. Sometimes she'd handle it well, others she wouldn't. But each time, within hours, she'd again be oblivious to the fact that she was dying of cancer.