re: What is proper Funeral Etiquette?

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This is my thinking with it. At a wake you are more interactive with everyone. I always just thought of it as a way for family and those close to the deceased to say their own goodbye before the funeral the next day. For many they want to see the person in the coffin (if open casket) and have that closure.


Doesn't mean the other way is wrong either. Luckily I've not gone to many funerals so I'm just basing it off what I've experienced.

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The wake seems like an extremely personal setting to me. I come from a very large Catholic family and have been to too many wakes to count, I don't like them at all.

My family has gotten into the habit of having calling hours at the church before the funeral and not having a casket so that people don't feel compelled to come to a wake the night before.

I much prefer that schedule.