re: OT lawyers assemble. Child care question.

A daycare can't arbitrarily decide which documents to release to which parent. If they're doing that, if you have any friends that are attorneys, I'm sure a stern letter advising them that this won't be tolerated, and a written request for the information you need, will likely get them back on track.

Include a copy of the custody agreement in the letter so they can't ever allege they weren't informed of the custody.