re: Help!! Handgun question

Back to your OP, I think you'd be better served with a compact/full size semi auto for shooting with your sons and home defense. I'd take a look at either a Glock 19 or Smith and Wesson M&P. Both are 9mm, fairly light, low recoil, more capacity, and better overall for novice/new shooters. The snappy recoil of a short-barrel revolver might turn off a new or inexperienced shooter. Just my thoughts.