re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

I never had children because I was afraid of having a child with some issue like BPD or Bi-polar or some such condition.
I didn’t get married until I was 30 and my wife already had 2.She kinda wanted to have another but I was really afraid to.
In my life experience I had come across too many people that had a child with serious problems.
I realize that children can be one of life’s greatest joys and many are.But at same time ,they can be one’s worst nightmare.You can’t just get rid of them like a problem dog,they’re your child forever.
One lady I worked with had 3 children,2 were normal good kids but 1 was an absolute monster and he ruined the lives of the rest of the family.She actually ended committing suicide after many years of dealing with him.