re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

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Update

I got her committed today to a long term facility in South Texas

I hope that the counselors will hold her to account and not be manipulated. Thank you for the advice and kindness. I hope none of you have to deal with this or even interact with this type of behavior. The Lord will provide.

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I don't divulge alot on this forum. I keep my personal and professional life to myself. Suffice to say there are few around these parts that professionally, can speak as well to this as I can.

They won't be manipulated from an LTC standpoint, this is right in their wheelhouse. In fact, they'll likely caution you not to be manipulated by her.

Additionally, there may be aspects of her care that as a parent, seem harsh to you or even borderline cruel. If so, bring it back here and we'll chew on it.

I'll give you an example. I was once a member of a treatment team who took care of a 9 year old girl who showed many of the same traits as your daughter. She would often get angry and act out. One of the ways she would act out is she would stare you straight in the eye and defecate on herself. When she did this, she was held accountable by making her wash her own underwear in the toilet bowl with her bare hands. She power struggled for awhile and then relented.

Just remember, sometimes when people take care of us, it feels bad.

This is where it all begins. Over the next few years it will feel OK and it will feel bad but I promise you this. Although nothing is guaranteed, the prognosis is so much better than you've been led to believe in this thread.