re: Have you seen a loved one in a state that crushed you…

Yeah my grandfather in the last couple weeks of bone cancer was so sad/tough.

My dad “fighting off” a stroke was an oh shite moment.

Eta: to expand a little on the stroke. By the time I got there, dad was back in the ER. He was incapacitated, staring into my mom’s eyes, and then he would go through an episode where he was like fighting it out of his brain or something. Straining extremely hard. Then he’d get relief and just go back to staring at my mom, but couldn’t talk. I can handle a lot, but had to step out of the room for a minute that day. You’re not supposed to see your dad scared to death, fighting for his life.

He survived by the way, but has aphasia and walks with a limp.