re: Have you seen a loved one in a state that crushed you…

My Father was operated on for lung cancer. They planned to take his lower right lobe. When they cut him open from sternum to backbone, they noticed a second large cancer (inoperable) on his upper right lobe growing onto the pulmonary artery.
So they sent him home to heal from the inside out.
This happened when I was working in Texas and they were in Virginia. I got home the next week and the visiting nurse was going to show me how to clean the wound. I was unprepared and drew back shaking. My Father saw my reaction and said , "It's that bad?" I stuttered, no, I just wasn't expecting it.
I couldn't help care for him, I remember the cut to this day. He died two months later and the cut was still 'healing'.