re: How do you deal with the guilt of living far away from your aging parents?

We moved back to Louisiana in part to be near parents and in laws. We built a house within walking distance from in laws. For a while kids went over all the time and we had dinner with them multiple times a week. Then they decided to move over an hour away, and complained we did not visit enough. When they began to have trouble caring for themselves we had many emergency drives over there, until they realized they needed to be in a retirement community. But they did not like any near us, so they went to Houston. Still complain we don't visit and that they are lonely. So no, we don't feel guilty at all.