I'm sorry but I completely disagree with this. Are there men that try to date above what they can realistically get? Yes. I'll admit I'm single (been in several long term relationships) and just hit 40.

I bring this up because yes in my 20s I probably was guilty of being too picky. I was probably guilty of only wanting the say 20% of above average to downright hot girls (I would not say 10%) but as I got into my 30s I realized other things mattered as well and I feel like my standards are far more realistic.

I think most likely there's probably about 30% of men who genuinely have unrealistic expectations of a woman partner. But I think the other 70% of men are either just not interested in dating, or more likely, just want a woman who isn't tatted up everywhere, 300 lbs and has nothing but attitude and hatred for men and the so called "patriarchy". Those standards might sound beyond basic but there's a huge amount of women here in the U.S. that can't even meet that.

My mentality is looks get me interested, personality keeps me interested.

So yes while there is a certain percentage of men (at all age groups) that will only date those top 20% of women, I don't think it's the overwhelming majority. It's definitely not 99.99%.

I would say this to you in reponse to your inaccurate comment. Maybe 99.99% of men wouldn't do what you say we do if 99.99% of women didn't treat men as nothing more than a walking ATM and didn't judge us simply by the size of our bank accounts and are only willing to date the top 5% of men by income.

See how silly that sounds coming from the other side? And I could argue my statement is more correct. Women are far more guilty of judging Men solely by their bank account and job title than Men are to judge Women solely by looks. But both the arguments above are silly. And that's the problem. Like with politics men and women are way too far apart now. Sadly I don't have a solution and I think it's going to get much worse before it gets better.

This post was edited on 2/24/24 at 7:49 am