re: How do people cope with separation or divorce?

Army, it’s been 25 years ago for me, but the following continues to work well for my situation:
1. Take care of yourself and find something to feed your soul. Therapy was not it for me! My parents gave me money to see a therapist and I used it to take dressage lessons.
2. Nothing hurts more than indifference. Do your best to take all the strong feelings out of any contact with your ex, and only refer to them as an “ex” if children are not involved. If you share children refer to them as “child’s name” other parent/birth mom or dad.
3. If you have children, you will be forever in a relationship with your former spouse. Conduct this relationship as a business of raising your children.
4. Don’t engage in a negative way with your ‘ex” or their family. This can victimize them to your children and when they get old enough, they will know.
5. Again, take care of yourself and even if it’s through your OT friends, we are here to help!