re: Divorce Experience

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Ex wife was a soul sucking miserable frick

Why do y’all marry people like this?

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Don’t over simply the lengths of effort, skill, and complexity some women are able to put into conning men into believing that they are a suitable partner.

I screened mine for years before we decided to get married. The minute the contract was signed, the leverage I had to be able to quickly walk away evaporated and the motivation for her to continue to provide actual value disappeared. It was a slow progression, but I quickly began to see her true character reveal its ugly self.

I have enough self awareness to admit I missed or looked past a lot of red flags that later surfaced. That is my cross to bear.

The best conclusion I can come to as to why we ultimately got married is that she was the person I was with when I decided I was ready to settle down. Looking back on it now, I wish I would have accepted that she likely was not going to be a good partner and walked from her. But I was ready to be a father and rationalized that she would grow out of all of the small things I knew were toxic.

I passed on a lot of really good women during my younger years when I wasn’t ready to settle down. I won’t make that mistake again.