re: Divorce Experience

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I (male) filed and merely want equal custody and not to be completely screwed financially. Just want to end things as easy as possible and not fight over things.

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The good news is, you should be used to disappointments (Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, happily ever after all disappointed you at some moment) because you are going to be disappointed if that is what you “merely want”. You need to manage expectations. Unless she has a massive drug problem or is pimped out on Figueroa Street you probably won’t get “equal”.

I really think you should mentally prepare yourself to pay at least $500 a month in child support (more if there are multiple children and even more if you make decent money), get to see your children four days a month, have an extended amount of time with then in the summer (2-6 weeks) and have an even split of holidays with the children. As primary bread winner by a long shot, I cannot even figure how much alimony you will pay without a figure, but divorce court is the one place in this world where that is not a good thing to be (primary bread winner).

Fight like heck if you want more than that and I hope it ends well for you. Divorce sucks, so you have my empathy. Good luck!