re: How hard is the jump from one child to two?

I didn’t think two was hard but that daycare bill hits a little different

I can only tell you that with child 3 it got easier for us. I guess it depends on the disposition of the child thou. Anything after 3 you get built it help and babysitters.

With one kid you can play zone or man to man defense. With 2 kids you can play man to man. but with 3+ you are forced to play zone and thats when you really get stretched.

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It was for me. But the difference is smaller. Three to four is about the same as two to three.

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In fairness, I went from 2 to 4, so maybe I am unqualified to answer about 2 go 3. 2 to 4 was brutal for a while. The adjustment periods came fast and furious. Every new step was a new way to do stuff.

My mother had a great sense of humor.

Watching my wife scrub and sterilize bottles one night she said...

"By the time the third one comes around and they're drinking out of the dogs bowl, you won't care".

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Following. The Mrs. is ready for baby #2, I am not

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Here is the truth. You're never going to be "ready."

Even after we had our first we always knew we didn't want her to be an only child. The first is a trying experience because you simply don't fully know how to be a parent. So by the time you think you have the hang of it and your child is not 100% reliant on you for everything, you aren't entirely eager to start the process all over again...even if you know you eventually want a second child.

When my wife told me she was pregnant with #2 I wasn't excited. But I wasn't upset or angry either. It was almost a numb feeling, if that make sense, of "well, we haver to start the process all over again." The good news is that once reality sets in you jump back into the saddle of being a parent of a little baby as if you never stopped. Only this time you are less unsure and far more confident in what you are doing because you have done it before. In short, you become a better parent and I could not imagine life without my second child.

Also, truth No.2. If you're wife wants No. 2 you are having No. 2. You know why? Because you are weak. You can put up a strong front and think your are adamant it's not going to happen. But there's going to be a night, maybe after a few drinks, where that resolve melts. Or maybe early one morning while the kids are asleep. She knows she has something you want. You may as well accept it.

Twice as hard as one and three is three times as hard as one. One child is ridiculously easy.

Over the next 50 years, life is going to get very hard, don't fell the need to bring a bunch of kids in the world. T

There's going to be no SHTF event, we'll just get lazier and dumber as a society until we are a third world country. There will still be the elites (.01% of the population) and a small middle class to be the "go betweens," but the majority of folks (80-90%?) will be peasants.

#2 tempted me to run out for a pack of smokes and never come back. Didnt do it but there are days the thought crossed my mind.

Twins? That's a whole other thing.

I think about my mom. Rural Louisiana married at 17. 7 1/2 months later gives birth to premature twins in 1952. One ends up with mental and physical handicaps. Imagine that being your introduction to parenthood. My eldest siblings (sisters).

My mom was an amazing and strong woman. I miss her every day.