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re: How hard is the jump from one child to two?

Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:50 pm to
Posted by notbilly
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:50 pm to
quote:

Following. The Mrs. is ready for baby #2, I am not



The closer in age they are, the easier it is. Mine are a little over 2 years apart (7/9). They entertain each other. They are like best friends, b/c they do everything together. They are willing to go to the same movies, enjoy vacations the same, etc. Bonus points if they are the same sex b/c kids don't care about hand-me-downs.

We have friends that only have 1 kid. They have an easier time dumping the kid on a friend or family member so they can go on dates. But the single kid always seems bored until they hang out with others.
Posted by FightinTigersDammit
Louisiana North
Member since Mar 2006
34764 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:52 pm to
A female friend once told me "Three kids is so many more than two".
And Mike Golic pointed out that with three kids, a couple can no longer play man coverage, playing a zone means that one will eventually get free.
Posted by RandySavage
Member since May 2012
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:54 pm to
Congratulations, two is better than one and you're a vet now, you got this!
Posted by teke184
Zachary, LA
Member since Jan 2007
96072 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:55 pm to
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We were not trying but also were not preventing


She didn’t order the cream pie for dessert but yall got one by accident?
Posted by LegendInMyMind
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:55 pm to
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Posted by STLDawg
The Lou
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:57 pm to
With two you can stay in man to man. With number three you have to switch to zone.
Posted by jrodLSUke
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 2:59 pm to
With two kids you have to play man-to-man. Beyond that you can go to a zone defense.
Posted by Salmon
On the trails
Member since Feb 2008
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:01 pm to
just to be clear OP

with 2 kids you play man to man and with 3 or more you play zone

Posted by WaterLink
Baton Rouge
Member since Sep 2015
17299 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:09 pm to
First of all, congrats on the kid, I sincerely mean that. We're still only at one, but plan on trying for a 2nd probably towards the end of next year, as we expect a career change and possibly a house change by next summer so we're trying to get through that first.

But...

quote:

We were not trying but also were not preventing so it did come as a little bit of a surprise.


What does this mean? If you're not preventing, that means you're trying. If you're nutting in your wife when she's not on BC or anything then it can't really come as a any sort of surprise when she gets pregnant.
Posted by GeauxTigahs92
Member since Sep 2019
339 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:09 pm to
I was about to say the same thing. Thought I was in the twilight zone reading the last few posts.
Posted by GeauxTigahs92
Member since Sep 2019
339 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:10 pm to
She wasn't tracking her cycles and we weren't timing sex like we did for the first two pregnancies. This one just happened I guess is what I meant.
Posted by Clevername35069
Baton Rouge
Member since Jan 2024
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Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:13 pm to
its hard.. at least it was for us. we had a 3 year old when our youngest was born. and the baby did not like bottles and seemed to get sick all the time. first 6 months was rough. we figured it out and adapted. its awesome now. but anyone that tells you its easy is either lying or the grandparents helped out a lot. Either way congrats! its awesome when they are old enough to start playing with each other and i wouldnt trade it for anything.
Posted by Dire Wolf
bawcomville
Member since Sep 2008
36690 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:22 pm to
quote:

She wasn't tracking her cycles and we weren't timing sex like we did for the first two pregnancies. This one just happened I guess is what I meant.



first one was during the tail end of covid and we were sick of each other. Got in a fight, had sex once, and boom pregnant.


currently waiting kid two after over a year of trying. After a few trips to the fertility clinic and urologist, i now get a chubby every time i see tupperwear
Posted by mdomingue
Lafayette, LA
Member since Nov 2010
30438 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:24 pm to
One to two is easier than zero to one. Two to three is easier than one to two.
Posted by SaintEB
Member since Jul 2008
22757 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:25 pm to
quote:

One to two is easier than zero to one


True.

quote:

Two to three is easier than one to two.


False.
Posted by Salmon
On the trails
Member since Feb 2008
83613 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:26 pm to
the real answer is that it is entirely dependent on the temperament and personality of the child

our #2 has been much more difficult than our first simply because she is so much more strong willed and independent

Posted by mdomingue
Lafayette, LA
Member since Nov 2010
30438 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:27 pm to
quote:

quote:

Two to three is easier than one to two.



False.




It was for me. But the difference is smaller. Three to four is about the same as two to three.

Posted by Darla Hood
Near that place by that other place
Member since Aug 2012
13974 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:28 pm to
My son was sending me a pic or two almost every evening when there was one. The pics are fewer and the chat even less, now that he has a 2 year old and a 2 month old. They are busy! It’s worth it.
Posted by Pettifogger
Capitol Hill Autonomous Zone
Member since Feb 2012
79264 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:29 pm to
I don't know, but going from 1 to 3 is pretty damn tiring. We talk all the time about having only two would be a cakewalk, so there's some perspective if you need it.

You'll be fine. I heard plenty of horror stories about kids that never sleep but thankfully avoided that. As you know, the sleepless nights don't last forever. Perhaps the biggest takeaway I've had is just to simply keep your head down and trod through it as joyfully as you can. You'll look up and suddenly something you were worried about 6 weeks ago (is this kid going to eat enough, what are we going to do about this nighttime routine, etc.) will be in the rear view already. Before long you'll be packing away newborn stuff.

I have a professional buddy with 5 kids. He said you could load him up with several more first grade aged kids, and they'd be fine. Just no more infants. It goes quick, it's a blessing and a curse. I'm not a fan of the newborn stage, but don't wish all the time away.

Posted by jcaz
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Member since Aug 2014
15673 posts
Posted on 5/1/24 at 3:30 pm to
Currently have a 13 y/o son and a 20 month old daughter. Wife now wants our 2nd baby ASAP. I'm just trying to push another year so my daughter is almost 4 and son is old enough to babysit her.

The past 2 years have been exhausting but I am finally adjusting and figuring out personal time again.
This post was edited on 5/1/24 at 3:31 pm
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