re: How hard is the jump from one child to two?

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She wasn't tracking her cycles and we weren't timing sex like we did for the first two pregnancies.

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We didn't even get a chance to do that. When me and my wife were dating and didn't want a kid yet she was on BC but she went off of it about 6 months before we got married so I started pulling out, we had a box of rubbers in the nightstand for times I either didn't want to have to pull out or I knew I wasn't going to last long.

We decided on our wedding night would be our first time going to completion without any protections and we would just do that at our leisure going forward and if she wasn't pregnant within a year then we would actually try to track cycles and all that jazz. But it didn't come to that, because exactly 9 months and 2 days after our wedding our son was born.

Still, I wouldn't classify us as "not trying" because we had a conversation that we did want a kid