re: How hard is the jump from one child to two?

First of all, congrats on the kid, I sincerely mean that. We're still only at one, but plan on trying for a 2nd probably towards the end of next year, as we expect a career change and possibly a house change by next summer so we're trying to get through that first.

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We were not trying but also were not preventing so it did come as a little bit of a surprise.

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What does this mean? If you're not preventing, that means you're trying. If you're nutting in your wife when she's not on BC or anything then it can't really come as a any sort of surprise when she gets pregnant.