re: Friends son just passed away in a car accident

People don’t forget those who were with them during times of grief. There is no right or wrong here, just genuine care depending on the depth of friendship.

A “I’m so sorry” and a hug goes a long way.

As someone I know who lost a relatively unexpectedly, has said, plants are a far better condolence gift than flowers. The plants don’t die when all the flowers do. I had a friend tell me she broke down in tears for hours the day she threw out all the dead flowers following her husbands passing.