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Have you ever taken a " Sad Day " off from work
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When Work Weighs You Down, Take a 'Sad Day'

Christina Caron


Have you ever felt nervous or afraid to take time off from work to look after your mental health?

Marisa Kabas, a writer and political strategist who lives in New York City, recently posed a similar question on Twitter, inspired by Simone Biles, who bowed out of Olympic events this week to protect her mental health.

“It was so shocking to so many people,” Kabas said Wednesday in an interview. “Because the whole mentality is, be strong and push through the pain.”

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The tweet drew thousands of responses, many from employees who said they do not disclose the real reason they need time away from work, or feel pressured to lie about it because they are embarrassed. Others said they had never taken a mental health day.

As a freelancer who has written prolifically about her health problems, including anxiety and depression, Kabas said she sometimes wakes up and decides, “I can’t do it today,” and takes the day off, a luxury she did not feel she had as an employee.

About three-quarters of people in the United States who work for private industry, state or local government have paid sick leave, but surveys suggest that a number of these employees are unlikely to use sick days for mental health reasons or are scared of being punished for doing so.

If you are among the hesitant, experts say it is time to start thinking about how to protect and prioritize your mental well-being, especially as millions of employees who worked remotely during the pandemic start returning to the office.

“You wouldn’t feel bad about taking time off when sick. You shouldn’t feel bad about taking some time off when you’re sad,” said Natalie C. Dattilo, a clinical health psychologist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston and an instructor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. “Your body needs a rest; your brain needs a break.”

How do you know if you need a ‘sad day’?

There is no official definition for a “sad day,” also known as a mental health day. Typically, it is paid time off drawn from sick days (or personal days) to help employees who are not feeling like their usual selves, offering an opportunity to refresh their minds, do something meaningful or simply take a break from daily stressors. The “sad day” is only a temporary fix and not meant to address deeper problems, but sometimes a little time away can make a big difference.

Your company may not specify that sick days can be used for this purpose, but “mental health is health,” said Schroeder Stribling, president and chief executive of the advocacy group Mental Health America. “The two are inseparable.”

The signs that you need to take time away from work may not necessarily be obvious, Stribling said. Indicators include changes in your mood, productivity or ability to concentrate. You may also notice that you are less patient and more irritable than usual or are having trouble sleeping.

You might also have physical symptoms. For example, “if I start getting headaches, that’s a sign of stress for me, and I need to address that with a mental heath day,” Stribling said.

The bottom line: Given the extraordinary stressors of the last year and a half, regardless of your specific symptoms, “if you feel like you might benefit from a mental health day, you have earned one,” said Adam Grant, an organizational psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton business school, whose recent podcast explored the benefits of the “sad day” and the importance of building a culture of compassion within the workplace.

Some companies may require employees to provide documentation, such as a doctor’s note, when they use sick days, so make sure you understand what the law says in your region. In New York City, for example, an employee is not required to provide documentation unless more than three consecutive days of sick leave have been used.

How do you ask for a mental health day?

Your workplace culture and your relationship with your manager will dictate how open you choose to be about why you are taking time off. You should not feel compelled to divulge more than necessary.

“I think sometimes we overshare when we’re anxious or perhaps feel a little bad about having to take time,” Dattilo said.

In most situations, just say that you need to take a sick day and leave it at that, the experts advised.

“I think the safe advice is not to be upfront,” said Andrew Kuller, a clinical psychologist at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. Not everybody values mental health, he added, and “unless you’re close with your supervisor, it is a risk.”

But say you work at the type of organization where you can tell the truth without fear of being punished. In that case, you are still under no obligation to reveal why you want to take a sick day. However, if you want to share (or are interested in reducing some of the stigma around mental health), you might approach your manager and say, “I think I would really benefit from taking a day just to recharge a little bit,” Grant said. “I would like to come back to work with all of my energy.”

When employees are mentally and physically exhausted, it affects the quality of their work, their productivity and the people around them, Grant added.

“I think it’s easier to have a conversation about burnout than it is about feeling sad or depressed or anxious, so I would probably play it safe there and highlight why this is good for the organization, not just good for you,” he said.

If you are feeling up to it, you can also try to assemble a coalition of people within your department who are concerned about mental health fatigue, said Grant, whose latest book, “Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know,” challenges readers to shift long-held thought patterns. As a group, you can discuss concerns like missed deadlines or errors that might be compounded by burnout, then bring these issues to your manager, who may be motivated to find a solution. That way, you can try to change the system for everyone, including yourself.

What do you do during a ‘sad day’?

In deciding how to use a mental health day, it helps to think about what brought you to this point in the first place. Do your personal relationships need attention? Are you exhausted from your workload and desperate to disconnect from everything? Did you have a particularly stressful week and want to spend some time decompressing? Maybe it is a combination of several things.

Thinking it through ahead of time will help you use your day in the most helpful way possible. While one person might benefit from a massage or a day of pampering, another person might want to paint or garden. Others will find the most value in reconnecting with friends or family members.

The day might also provide an opportunity to rethink your day-to-day activities. “Are they giving you pleasure or meaning?” Kuller asked.

Next, think about ways to take care of yourself on a regular basis, he added, like meditation, yoga or cooking a healthy meal. Make a plan to do more of those things going forward.

Whatever you do, do not spend the day checking your messages or feeling guilty, the experts said. “Self-care is not a selfish act,” Grant said. “People who are selfless to the point of self-sacrifice end up burning out.”

So instead of thinking, “I should be at work right now,” try to reframe your thinking in a more positive way, Dattilo said. For example, she added, try saying, “It would be great if I could be at work right now. But today is a day that I need to take care of myself, so that’s what I’m going to do.”


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I ain’t reading all that shite.
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re: Have you ever taken a " Sad Day " off from work
No, I have a penis.


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I would have to if I was that pitiful POS.
No. Closest was a “mental health” day when Loveland got two feet of fresh.


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re: Have you ever taken a " Sad Day " off from work
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You wouldn’t feel bad about taking time off when sick. You shouldn’t feel bad about taking some time off when you’re sad,” said Natalie C. Dattilo,


I hate bull shite like this. All it does is minimize people with real mental health problems. Depression is far more than feeling "sad." Real clinical depression is often physical as much as mental.



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Missing more work isn’t going to fix work anxiety. It’s only gonna get you farther behind.


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re: Have you ever taken a " Sad Day " off from work
Since I work for myself I can ill afford such a luxury


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Had to put my dog down a few years ago and really hit me hard. Ended up taking the next day off.


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With the amount of sniveling pussies in this country currently, I am surprised we have not been invaded.


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One of my subordinates requested a day off for this. I was forced to approve it.


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Canada is too polite to invade while Mexico doesn't send military equipment, just infantry.


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With the amount of sniveling pussies in this country currently, I am surprised we have not been invaded.


It’s gonna happen within 10 years.


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Tantal
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re: Have you ever taken a " Sad Day " off from work
frick no. I've used a grand total of 5 sick days in my entire career (24 years).....and two of those were due to the Sergeant sending me home because I'd sliced off the tip of my trigger finger.


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WE have a raised a generation of pussies...


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I raise chickens. Every once in a while we have a sad day...if you know what I mean.


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No, I have a penis.

I'd imagine mental health is probably a lot more serious for men ironically

Maybe we have a backwards way of thinking about things and are unaware of it


Mo Jeaux
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You mean mental health days? Sure. Why not?


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Most Americans now are lazy and mentally weak. Sad.

You know what the damn meaning of life is? You get up and you go to work. Whether that be a job or anything else. You get your damn arse up and you go to work. Sad what our world is becoming.
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