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ArmyHogs
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Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?

Let’s say she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name? Would you still marry her? And no, this isn’t a personal story…


danilo
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
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Let’s say she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name?

Waiting only a couple days before to tell you seems suspicious.

I am older than most newlyweds and my current girl is a doctor, can’t blame her for not changing her name.
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reverendotis
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
Yes, bad leading indicator. She'll wind up being an enormous pain in the ass, even more than most.

Expect the 20somethings in here to say otherwise, they have no fricking idea what they're talking about.


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PeteRose
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
I don’t find it a big deal as long as my kid have my last name.


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go_tigres
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
My brother and sister in law have different last names. It’s been an awkward discussion point many times with their kids. The natural assumption is that his wife, the kids mother, is the step parent


tigerinthebueche
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
Wasn’t a deal breaker for me.


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MSTiger33
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
My wife kept her last name professionally but has my last name for everything else. It wouldn’t bother me if she didn’t take it at all other than it would be a PITA when dealing with day to day stuff.


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Bronson2017
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
Yep. First sign of many problems to come. This belongs in that slippery slope thread.


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mauser
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
What's more important to her, her making you happy or you making her happy?


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liz18lsu
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
I wasn't going to change mine, initially, just because it's a huge PITA, but then I realized that not changing it seemed very disrespectful to mfiwd. So, I got the SS card and license changed. Will eventually get the bank info updated, along with the passport. I updated my signature at work, but told IT, under no circumstances, change my work email (which includes my maiden name). Other women, who had their email addresses changed, said it was a nightmare.

TLDR - Yes, a woman should take her husband's last name.
This post was edited on 11/25 at 4:52 am


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hobotiger
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
My wife did not, but we got married in our 40s and she was well established in her field so that was why.


squid_hunt
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
If a woman wouldn't take my last name I would not marry her. She wants to be her own woman, she doesn't need my help.


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imjustafatkid
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
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Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?


Yes.

quote:

Let’s say she tells you a couple days before the wedding she wants to keep her own last name? Would you still marry her?


No.


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llfshoals
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
Yes, that’s a deal breaker.

I get that kids these days do things differently, which in this case doesn’t mean better.

The hyphenated last names are the worst. Just go ahead and plan the divorce along with the wedding.


ArmyHogs
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
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Waiting only a couple days before to tell you seems suspicious


Well maybe she just changed her mind about it or something.


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OceanMan
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
Yeah it would be a dealbreaker for me but I could understand it if people 40+ getting married not doing so. Or any marriage that doesn’t plan to have kids, although I don’t know why the frick anyone would do that.


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Dawgholio
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
There is only a few reasons why she shouldn’t take your last name
1. She is known by her last name in her profession (Doctor, published author, etc)
2. She’s famous
3. Her family has a business or something they built on the family name

Otherwise it’s suspect


SavageOrangeJug
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
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Yes, that’s a deal breaker.



I suppose if you're an insecure little man it is a deal breaker.
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I get that kids these days do things differently, which in this case doesn’t mean better.

The hyphenated last names are the worst. Just go ahead and plan the divorce along with the wedding.

Don't be talking about kids. You'll get your buddy Cuyler excited.

Not everyone bases their marriage on antiquated customs. The days of an easy name change are over. The red tape and hoops you have to jump through at government agencies to change a name is unbelievable.
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CoyoteSong
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
Yes it would be a deal breaker. Good sign the marriage will not work.

She can always change her name back if she divorces her husband so I don’t understand the big deal.


bigberg2000
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re: Would your fiancé not taking your last name be a deal breaker?
I wouldnt give a shite as long as that P is poppin.


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